Shipping Stuff

So, I don't tend to really do a lot when it comes to shipping, but I suppose since I've been ending up in a lot more social circles these days (and consequentially getting more eyes on my site), I figured I'd speak briefly about shipping & my habits related to shipping. I figure if it's all in plain text on here, it'll be easier for people to reference at any point, rather than me explaining my stance repeatedly. Basically, this page is for people that I interact with moreso on Discord than anything.

For the most part, I'm very chill with shipping. While I don't tend to really use a lot of the terms out there for self identification (such as "fujoshi," "yumejoshi," etc), I do tend to ship a lot of same sex romances, as well as do my fair share of OCxCanon ships. I tend to be private about most of this, as I just don't really tend to bring it up in conversation unless we're personally close, but I don't mind sharing to a degree (I will block yumes that make me uncomfortable with how they handle themselves over shipping). I tend to be multiship, don't really care about order, and things like the genders or sexualities of characters are always something I treat as up in the air unless it's explicitly stated. As for Pro vs Anti shipping: I find both sides annoying. If you act like this or identify with it too much, it doesn't matter which side you're on, I will block you. I find people who are way too into these identities just use it as an excuse to either post incredibly triggering content without warnings, be edgy, or just straight up harass people. It's annoying.

I don't really ship (or even like) anything all that problematic I think. If I find the content you ship distressing, I will block usually, but most times things don't phase me, and most people tend to censor problematic content in spaces I'm in so I'm just like idk, chillin. I am of the mind that "Don't like, don't read" is the mentality that needs to come back in fandom spaces. If people post things I dislike, no matter how problematic it is, as long as it's within the realms of fiction and it is not related to actual living people, I am fine to look the other way. Even if it's content I don't like. I don't believe that being a dick over fiction I dislike makes any difference past making others miserable, and I don't wish to contribute more misery in the world, especially in today's day and age where the mere presence of LGBTQ people is being censored. Puritanism hurts everyone. Stop giving into it. Learn to filters to keep you from seeing content you dislike, rather than actively harassing people out of fandom spaces.

Anyways, I don't post a lot of ship content on here, but most of my ships tend to be the following, for the curious:

  • Puppyshipping (YGO)
  • Thiefshipping (YGO)
  • Prideshipping (YGO)
  • BeaBato (WTC3)
  • RoyAi (FMA)
  • Graha x WoL (XIV)
  • Ignitionshipping (PKMN)
  • MadoHomu (PMMM)
  • KyoSaya (PMMM)
  • YkYm (i7)
  • GkYm (i7)
  • YuRei (ToV)
  • AleSchwa (ToV)
  • PhanLumi (MS)
  • BeliSan (GBF)
  • SturmDrang (GBF)
  • Honestly I just like village bicycle Sandals (GBF) & Yamato (i7) a lot

I'm sure there's a lot of others that I'm simply forgetting to list right now, but the main dynamic I tend to like in ships is rivalries & antagonistic ships. I have ships I definitely dislike as well, but for the most part, I tend to be whatever about that. I don't think I need to list them, but you're free to ask if you care about this stuff.

I'm supportive of a lot of people's yume ships. I tend to like yume shipping, even if it's not my own. There's something way more interesting about how characters interact with OCs in my eyes, so if you are vocal about your ships, I may tend to hang around, even if I don't talk a lot about shipping. It's just neat to me.

Heads up this is where the bitching begins

So as of recently I've felt the need to really rewrite this section about labels and stuff that I don't use. I suppose I've become a bit more accepting of the Yumejoshi label being used towards me (I specify Yumejoshi because while I don't really tend to use feminine pronouns too much these days, I'm accepting of Yumejoshi moreso than Yumejin or Yumehito. If that's your preference, that's fine. They just feel a bit awkward to me). I don't really tend to use the other two (Fujoshi & its gendered variants or Himejoshi & its gendered variants) still, but that's just me personally.

Anyways there is something I do want to say that I feel like I have to keep explaining myself on. It's the fact that some people like to tell me which characters I yume simply because I shrine them. A shrine doesn't mean you yume the character. It just means you like them. The assumption that liking a character enough to shrine them and then telling a person that it has to be romantic and/or sexual feelings that the person who shrined the character has when said person said they don't feel that way is ridiculous to me. I'm tired of having these assumptions thrust upon me wherever I go. I realize that some people don't have a basic understanding of Oshi culture, but supportings one's oshi (usually an idol of sort) is pretty common. People do it all the time. People support their Vtuber oshis, their real idol oshis, their virtual idol oshis or their 2D/2.5D idol oshis. It's very very fucking common. Some people may have romantic love or "waifu"/"husbando" those idols. It doesn't mean everyone does. Having an oshi doesn't need to be romantic. It doesn't need to be sexual. Love exists in more than romantic and sexual connotations.

Politely put I'm really really fucking tired of people telling me I'm a Kaiba yume. I've seen people assume it and apologize. That's fine. But I've been having way more people tell me it lately. That I cannot like Kaiba unless its in a romantic or sexual context and I'm quite frankly fucking sick of it. I never had this issue as a Yamato oshi. I never had this issue with DIO. So why is it always Kaiba that everyone tells me that I have to feel this way for? I don't. I have a character I yume. I spent the last year being told by several people in groups that something is wrong with me for having these feelings about this character, being relentlessly mocked, told that I could "simply do better," or just getting an exasperated response questioning whether or not I'm actually a lesbian. And I'm so fucking tired of it. Especially when people tell me "Why would you yume Sanji of all people when Seto Kaiba is right there."

Sincerely, fuck off.

I find Kaiba to be a great character, I really do. I just do not feel romantic towards him. I don't feel sexual towards him. When I say I love the character I mean "I admire and relate to this character on a deep emotional level." I don't feel the same love as other people. And I think that's fine. But like, I'm so tired of having to sit there and be around people who do nothing but drag my f/o to prop up their own and then telling me that I should just "become like them." Like... No. Fuck off. You people are annoying. I regret being involved with some of you. Like yes you're nice people outside of this topic, but I'm just so so so tired of the blatant disrespect. You don't respect my boundaries, you mock me for my personal choices, and then you try to tell me how I should feel about this all. Like, if this is what it's like being in yume communities, where my personal agency is removed from me and I get told who and who not to yume then it's like... Yeah I don't want to be here. Yumeing is literally my handful of friends on Treefort & the few people I wish to talk to in discord and I enjoy my time speaking to.

With that said, I'm unsure if I want to be nonsharing or mirror sharing. I stay away from other Sanji girlies for my own mental health and not wanting to copy other people even if passively because I see ideas and sometimes I'm like "yeah I like that." It's not because I hate you and I think I own a character, it's more of "I think it is best to leave eachother alone" and also just "my mental health cannot take anymore yume bullshit drama." I've already seen and been dragged into the Raven yume drama, I saw my fair share of Exarch yume drama, and now when I mostly found a happy little group of people I love in YGO, I get this. I am aware that a few bad apples does not speak for every Kaiba yume and I do want to acknowledge that. It's just that pretty much all the ones I have run into that make issues have been so fucking unpleasant. I understand wanting to partake in the same shared joy, but I cannot share the romantic joy with you. I refuse to share that romantic joy with you. I am happy for you and I wish you the best, but please do not try to tell me what my personal feelings are on something. It's a disgusting feeling. I don't enjoy it. It feels like cruelty to me every time I get mocked for my own personal choices. Two characters can mean something to me and in completely different ways all together. So I am begging you to be respectful to it.

Okay rant over

Tl;dr I yume Sanji and only Sanji get your head out of your ass if you want to argue otherwise. It's literally ridiculous to feel pressured to fucking need a page on my site where I have to beg people to stop calling me a Kaiba yume or expect me to join up and fight a certain other Kaiba yume. I don't want any part of this and I'm not one of you I'm literally just a fan I think he's cool and relatable! So stop telling me what to be.

Edit: I trimmed some of the negative and a bit more uncalled for things here, because I understand after letting it sit for a while that despite my frustration, I was kind of just mad. Oops.

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